Tuesday, December 16, 2008

Christmas Cards that weren't meant to be

Didn't do these in time :( So we got Costco Christmas cards instead. Oh well. At the very least, I thought I'd post them here. Happy Holidays!

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Just keep breathing...

So as you can tell, I haven't had much of the creative juices flowing. Lots have been going on with my new job(s). I can't wait for the next couple of weeks to settle down so i can focus more on my creative projects. But until then, I leave you with this picture from this site of amazing photos. I love this pic because my hawaiian middle name happens to mean "heavenly dew" and if there was a photo that described my middle name, I think this would be it...

Guess Who's Having Another Speed Scrap...

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Lattes anyone?

I am so loving my new job. I get free batches of assorted fresh baked cookies and free lattes to start. Tomorrow I get a whole buffet meal FOR FREE. I am living the good life at the Culinary Department :) This is exactly what the doctor ordered. New job. More time with my son and the opportunity to go back to school. AND free lattes...

Monday, November 24, 2008

The blog train has arrived at Insprink

Thanksgiving is right around the corner. This year has been a crazy year for me. I feel like I've grown 10-fold in the last three months. I have a new job coming up, which is very exciting and frightening at the same time. I'm thrilled to be spending more time with my son. I get to focus now on the things that will fulfill me creatively, intellectually, and emotionally. These changes are all great and a long time coming. I am so thankful for the ability to change with the opportunities it will provide. I have a lot more things to say about what I am thankful for, but who are we kidding. I know you're waiting for those freebies. *wink*

In celebration of Andilynn Designs' latest kit "Abundantly Blessed" her wonderful CT (which includes me) decided to celebrate with  freebie giveaway through the blog train express. Collect the fun quickpages and thank you card I created here.

I am the last stop, so make sure you've collected the rest of the freebies through the blog train. Go through the list below and visit my fellow Andi's Artists to collect all the goodies.

1. Andrea (the designer)
2. Melanie
3. Krista P
4. Shari & Heidi
5. Emilee

I hope you all have a wonderful Holiday!

Sunday, November 23, 2008

The Red Porch is having a CT call

Monthly Responsibilities:
- Create a minimum of 3 layouts using 60% of the store's kits and post them in 4 galleries (The Red Porch, DST, and 2 other galleries of your choice)
- Actively participate in the CT forum
- Create fun challenges and activities for the community to participate in
- Promote the store's products on your personal blog and/or social networking profiles (ie. myspace, facebook, twitter)
- Actively participate in the community by posting complimentary comments
- Free access to ALL the amazing and unique kits from the store
- Be a part of a fun, up and coming community
How to apply:
Send an email to kelly@theredporch.com with "CT call" in the subject line, with the following information:
- a short bio
- list of your other CT responsibilities
- whether you are a digi-scrapper or hybrid
- a link to your most active gallery
- if you're interested in being a CT leader
Please email your interest by Saturday, November 29. We look forward to hearing from you.
If you are interested in receiving an update on the store launch, visit theredporch.com and sign up for the newsletter.

Saturday, November 22, 2008

One more thing...

Check out my blog on Monday, 11/24 because I'll be part of a Blog Train for Andilynn Designs. Choo-choo!!

It's here It's here. My first kit debut

Ohayō gozaimasu Insprink readers!!!

Check out Brownie Scraps to download my very own first digi kit called Moon Love. I know, it's not a stroke of genius, but cut me some slack. This is my first shot at designing and I'm just learning.

When my husband saw the kit, he said "oh that's nice hon. i don't get it." Since I couldn't put this in the description, I thought I'd explain the inspiration for the kit. The challenge was to create a mini kit using a certain color palette. I chose the pink and yellow. As soon as I saw the colors, I immediately thought of the time my sister Kacie and I watched a 15 hour tv marathon of Sailor Moon. Have you heard of it? It was a very popular anime in Japan in the late 90's about five girls who represent each planet and they fought evil for justice and love. Yeah, I know. Pretty corny, but it was fun. So this is the kit that was inspired by the dim-witted girl Serena (aka Sailor Moon) and her super cool friends Mina, Raye, Lita, and Amy.

Let me know your thoughts in the comments. If you're going to give me some tough love, please email me instead :)

Dōmo arigatō

Thursday, November 20, 2008

It's been way too long

since my last post. It feels like ages ago. I've done so many layouts since then. I've also decided to change jobs and work for two totally different places (scrapbookin site and Culinary department). These changes are in the process or about to start. I'm also participating in a design challenge. I'm really excited because I've always wanted to attempt to design but never had the motiviation. Now I do. If you're interested in joining the design challenge, it's not too late. Feel free to check out Brownie Scraps. You check back here in a few days because I'll be participating in a freebie blog train for Andilynn designs, my freebie kit download for Brownie Scraps, and I'll be planning some fun games/challenges for the new site The Red Porch which launches soon. All very exciting. I've also completed another ScrapMatters newsletter. Woohoo! With energy in tact. Here are some fun layouts I've made with Andilynn Design's latest kit "abundantly blessed" now available at Scrapmatters.com, oh and don't forget to check out Andilynn's blog for the freebie add on...

I'll post the credits for this one soon. It's one of my favorite LOs...

Thursday, October 9, 2008

Women on What Matters Most

There is a really great article in Newsweek on successful women and how they got to where they are today. I love reading this kind of stuff. It's inspiring. I especially love it when they interview other people who are real, everyday people. Check it out.

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Autumn is Finally Here!!

Autumn is my favorite season of the year. There is something magical about mother nature transitioning into the "dead of winter." Crispy brown and red leaves begin to fall. Kids are hopping from puddle to puddle in their adorable raincoats after a rainy evening. The grey and white clouds gather in the sky to converse about their upcoming storm plans. The spicy aroma of pumpkin pie looms from the nieghbor's home. (Not my home. You know I don't cook. At the most, I'll go get one of those Glade candles that smells like pumpkin pie.)

Since Fall weather tends to be slightly dreary in California, it reminds me of my two favorite places: Seattle, WA and Waimea on the Big Island. Both places have signature fog that engulfs you so you can't see within 5 feet in front of you. Both places encourage you to cuddle up next to a warm brick fireplace and drink hot cocoa or cider.  Both places make me want to read a good book or write about a captivating short story. What a magical season to make me feel so inspired. Now, can you tell me what season inspires me to clean the house more often? Would that be Spring?

The best is celebrating Halloween and Thanksgiving. The kinds of treats and meals that come out of those two holidays are delightful. It's also one of the greatest ways to get the family together to hang out; talk story. We reflect upon the year and what we've done so far. We discuss what our Christmas plans will be and when we'll see snow. Sigh. I love Fall. 

This Fall, I hope you're enjoying some hot cider, scaring the neighborhood kids, and being thankful for everything you have.

Monday, October 6, 2008

A sad sign of the times...

Halloween is going to suck this year

Monday, September 29, 2008

It's not too late to celebrate! Scrapmatters turned 1!

In the midst of the Fashion Show, I didn't get a chance to post this. Check out Scrapmatters.com for all of the fun activities surrounding their 1st birthday!! Today is the last day to receive their killer discount! Hope to see you there!!

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Funny thoughts for Hump Day!!

It's Wednesday. I honestly have more urgent things going on in my life than my 9-5pm job that I'd rather be focusing on right now, but I'm chugging along, doing my thing, blogging to the cyberworld.

First, I'd seen this post on my favorite gossip site. I had to share because as a mom, I find the thought simply silly: http://perezhilton.com/2008-09-24-this-is-not-a-joke-62

Second, I would hate to be the two people pictured next to that headline on the front page of MSN.com website.

Monday, September 22, 2008

SRMC Fashion Show

This weekend I get to host my very own fashion show with the latest Fall baby and kid couture fashions. It's going to be tons of fun and I'm really excited! My son's going to be in the show, so I'm crossing my fingers he'll be on his best behavior. If you're in Santa Rosa this upcoming Saturday, come check us out. Here's the ad I made for the show! Hope to see you there!

Template Challenge- Come out and Play

We've posted a template challenge over at Andilynn Designs blog! Come check it out and get a fantastic participation prize!! I would have posted my fanciful LO here, but I left my gear (that carries all of my enormously huge files) at home today. :( I feel so naked without my portable HD. I can't believe how dependant I've become to it. It's like forgetting my wedding ring at home or my watch. BTW, don't tell the hubby I forget the wedding ring at home. He'll give me that "I told you to put it in the same place every day" look. I hate that look. I get that look everytime I lose something in the house. But, I have to admit, I should appreciate the 'look' because that means he cares. If he didn't care, I wouldn't get a 'look.' I would probably be ignored. 

Oh well. Happy Monday!! Oh who am I kidding. Mondays are never happy. How about "Have a Disney Day!" That sounds a lot better.


Friday, September 19, 2008

Food for thought...Thanks Whit for having me in your front row

Everyone can't be in your front row!

Life is a theater - invite your audience carefully.Not everyone is spiritually healthy and mature enough to have a front row seat in our lives.There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go, or at least minimize your time with draining negative, incompatible not-going-anywhere relationships/friendships/fellowships!

Observe the relationships around you.Pay attention to: Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people, do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know and appreciate you and the gift that lies within you?When you seek growth, peace of mind, love and truth, the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the Front Row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.You cannot change the people around you but you can change the people you are around!

'Greatness is not a function of circumstance.Greatness is largely a matter of conscious choice and discipline.'

Thursday, September 18, 2008

9/13/08 Special Saturday challenge at Scrapmatters

So this was a really fun challenge. We had to scrap something about our wedding. I got to play around with some paper and fonts. This has motivated me to start thinking about the wedding book I've been wanting to make. I can't wait to get started!!

Did I mention I am a CT for Andilynn Designs?! Woohoo!

I'm only recently learning about the language of this new world I belong to. CT means Creative Team. I was recently selected to be a CT member for Andilynn Designs who is the owner of Scrapmatters.com. I have tons of affection for this digital online community. Feel free to check them out at http://www.scrapmatters.com/. As a budding CT member, I created layouts using Andilynn Design's kits. Here are some layouts I've created thus far. Stay tuned for more!

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

Speed Scrap at ScrapMatters

Join in on the fun!!

Woot! Woot! Go Casey!

My dear friend from high school back on the Big Island of Hawaii, Mr. Casey Stone just got some great reviews in our local paper. Here is my favorite part of the review "Yay! Pastry Chef Casey Stone knocked one out of the park with his Layered Orange Cheesecake ($9 ****), a light, airy, floaty confection in pastel colors that offered sweet relief after the disappointments of the dinner." (Jeff Cox, Press Democrat)

Click to read the rest of the review: http://www.pressdemocrat.com/article/20080904/LIFESTYLE/809030135/1309

My playgroup mom friends and I are going to enjoy some of Casey's delicious creations.  I'll make sure to post some pictures when we get back.

Sunday, August 31, 2008

Busy Busy Busy

Here are some fun things I've done with my scrapbooking projects. Enjoy!

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Safety-Tat latest product!

I'm very excited to see Safety-tat has come out with a writeable applique. I bought the rocket ship tattoos for Liam a few months ago and have used it on many of our weekend adventures. At the time, I only bought one pack with my husband's phone number on it, which is not helpful when I'm the one taking my son out. With their latest product, I can write my phone number, nana's phone number, or uncle's phone number. This is brilliant. The tattoos are non-toxic and can last up to 5 days. Note: Do not try to apply it over sunscreen. It will come off very easily. The skin needs to be perfectly dry before applying. If you sign-up for their free newsletter, you get helpful tips on how to keep your kids safe when you're out in crowded adventures. Visit their site at: safetytat.com

Monday, August 18, 2008

Why God Made Moms?

My lovely MIL sent this to me the other day and I wanted to share. Kids really do say the darndest things. I wonder what Liam would say about me?

Answers given by 2nd grade school children to the following questions:

Why did God make mothers?
1. She's the only one who knows where the scotch tape is.
2. Mostly to clean the house.
3. To help us out of there when we were getting born.

How did God make mothers?
1. He used dirt, just like for the rest of us.
2. Magic plus super powers and a lot of stirring.
3. God made my Mom just the same like he made me. He just used bigger parts.

What ingredients are mothers made of ?
1. God makes mothers out of clouds and angel hair and everything nice in the world and one dab of mean.
2. They had to get their start from men's bones. Then they mostly use string, I think.

Why did God give you your mother and not some other mom?
1. We're related.
2. God knew she likes me a lot more than other people's moms like me.

What kind of little girl was your mom?
1. My Mom has always been my mom and none of that other stuff.
2. I don't know because I wasn't there, but my guess would be pretty bossy.
3. They say she used to be nice.

What did Mom need to know about dad before she married him?
1. His last name.
2. She had to know his background. Like is he a crook? Does he get drunk on beer?
3. Does he make at least $800 a year? Did he say NO to drugs and YES to chores?

Why did your mom marry your dad?
1. My dad makes the best spaghetti in the world. And my Mom eats a lot.
2. She got too old to do anything else with him.
3. My grandma says that Mom didn't have her thinking cap on.

Who's the boss at your house?
1. Mom doesn't want to be boss, but she has to because dad's such a goof ball.
2. Mom. You can tell by room inspection She sees the stuff under the bed.
3. I guess Mom is, but only because she has a lot more to do than dad.

What's the difference between moms &dads?
1. Moms work at work and work at home and dads just go to work at work.
2. Moms know how to talk to teachers without scaring them.
3. Dads are taller & stronger, but moms have all the real power because that's who you got to ask if you want to sleep over at your friend's.
4. Moms have magic, they make you feel better without medicine.

What does your mom do in her spare time?
1 Mothers don't do spare time.
2. To hear her tell it, she pays bills all day long.

What would it take to make your mom perfect?
1. On the inside she's already perfect. Outside, I think some kind of plastic surgery.
2. Diet. You know, her hair. I'd diet, maybe blue.

If you could change one thing about your mom, what would it be?
1. She has this weird thing about me keeping my room clean. I'd get rid of that.
2. I'd make my mom smarter. Then she would know it was my sister who did it and not me.
3. I would like for her to get rid of those invisible eyes on the back of her head.

Sunday, August 17, 2008

Saturday-Word Challenge

Hey Everyone, one more layout before I go to bed. As you know, I had tons of fun with the hubby in Vegas. Wanted to scrap about it. The word challenge is-Remember at scrapmatters.com. Hope you like it. Credits: Veronic Ponce's DateNight freebie kit

Bonus Challenge for Designs In Digital

I had a ton of fun with this layout. Because the challenge was not to use a photo, it actually went fairly quick. Leave me a comment and let me know what you think! credits: designed by Lori Cameron-Delta Blues kit

ScrapMatters Tuesday Template Challenge!

I had tons of fun with the challenge because I had a chance to scrap about Liam's first day at preschool. I can't believe he is going to school already. He is growing up way too fast for me. These really are the days to cherish. Hope you like the layout from scrapmatters.com. Credits for papers and elements from freebie kits: Digital Freebie's welcome kit, Steirny's Mango Tango kit, and Designs In Digital Brownie Scraps kit.

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Hubby and I celebrated 5 years! Woohoo...

And of course, I had to scrap about it. We spent our anniversary in Viva Las Vegas, which I haven't had a chance to scrap yet. I took fabulous photogs from our beautiful room in one of the top floors of the Bellagio hotel. We had the best view of the famous water show in front of the Bellagio. This scrap page is a quickpage done by Retrodiva {designs} from digitalfreebie.com. I love the paper and elements so much that I may purchase the whole kit.

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

Here is my first Scrap Factor Challenge!

This weeks challenge was to use one 3x3 photo using their specified kit. Feel free to leave my comments at Designs In Digital: http://www.designsindigital.com/gallery/showphoto.php/photo/15624/cat/1033/limit/recent

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Projects! Challenges! Digiscraps! Where do I begin...

I'm in the works of participating in the Scrap Factor challenge from DesignDigital.com. I haven't uploaded my first challenge yet, but I will make sure to do so here. I'm also taking a class from SIStv fashionista Ashley Wren. I've done a couple pages for her already, but am not allowed to post them until the class is done. I'm having tons of fun with her "assignments." I'm also in the beginning of an online writing class from a fellow Momwriter. I'm excited to receive my first assignment from her as well. As you can tell, lots of creative juices flowing but not a lot to show for it right now. Check back soon to see what I've been cooking up.
Ciao for now!

Monday, July 28, 2008

Dark Knight-I finally watched it!

I've been a huge Batman fan since Michael Keaton took on the role in the late '80s. I loved Val Kilmer as Batman. Clooney was ok. But Christian Bale takes the cake. He is absolutely dreamy. My husband and I loved 'Batman Begins' so much, we jokingly threw in Bruce Wayne as an option for our first born's name. We ended up choosing Liam (from Liam Neeson in the 'Batman Begins' movie). The second installment is by far one of the best movies I've ever seen. It's incredibly long, but definitely not boring. If I ever am lucky enough to get pregnant again, I think Bruce Wayne will go back into the running list of names ;)

Project Runway is Back!! Woohoo!

Fashionista pic taken for wunderbloc.com So I finally caught up with the first two Project Runway shows that aired and I TOTALLY LOVE KENLEY COLLINS! I think she is absolutely adorable and I hope her new line is very similar to what she wears because I really like her clothes. Go Kenley! Hope you make it to the top 3!

Saturday, July 26, 2008

Beach Fun!

I love this photo I took of Liam on our last trip to Oahu. He watched the surfers ride waves from his safe sand dune. I did the whole page and then felt like something was missing. Once I added the "retro" look to it, it felt complete. Enjoy!

credits: Christine Ousley of christinescraps ~ Summer Splash kit
Pton Designs ~ Tropical Oasis kit

Friday, July 25, 2008

Here's another one of my creations...

I had fun with this page because I forced myself to be creative. I know, that sounds weird but I think being creative can be the best remedy for a crummy mood. Hope you like it.

Thursday, July 24, 2008

Buying and Giving up a rabbit turned out to be more than I bargained for….

I had an impulse purchase yesterday and it was very bad. It wasn’t like the over priced red Dolce & Gabbanna sunglass splurge that I did while waiting in the airport because it matched my favorite pair of shoes… I bought another rabbit; a brown & caramel lop eared baby rabbit to be exact. Corey specifically said to me, as I walked out the door to the pet store to purchase items for Sachi (our current rabbit), “Kelly, DON’T buy another rabbit.” I don’t know if its because the hubby said ‘no’ or because she stole my heart when she licked my hand (an old trick my previous rabbit Keihi use to do to get what he wanted), but I had to have her.

Liam was beyond thrilled to buy this baby rabbit and bring her home. Once we got home, I found it strange that I wasn’t as excited with her as I thought I would be but I quickly brushed the thought aside because my two year old was running around the kitchen screaming “I’m HUNGRY! I wanna EAT Mommy!”

After feeding, bathing, and putting the little rugrat to bed, I came back downstairs to take care of the rabbits. Sachi was not happy with her new neighbor. I had no idea bonding rabbits were going to be a challenge. I’ve always considered my rabbit a friendly animal, so it totally threw me to see Sachi throw a tantrum in her cage similar to a 2 year old child. She kicked up her litter, thrashed her toys around in her cage, and stomped loudly. It was clear she was not smitten by the doe eyed baby rabbit.

Even though I purchased the brown & caramel rabbit, she didn’t really feel like she was mine. I didn’t even get a chance to name her. Upon a reasoning discussion with the hubby, I decided to take the rabbit back the next morning.

The next morning comes. I carefully pack the bunny in the cardboard box she came in and head to the pet store. The shop didn’t open for another 10 minutes. I decided to get my last cuddles in with this rabbit before I returned her. As I’m petting her in my lap, she forms into a ball with her fur puffed out. I start talking to her (yes, I talk to animals, don’t you?) and apologizing for her traumatic overnight experience and that she deserves a better home with the possibility of being purchased with one of her siblings. Then all of a sudden, a thought hits me like a three car impact. I impulsively purchased this rabbit to fill the gapping whole in my heart…my desire to have another child. I’ve been in major denial because we’re having a hard time conceiving again (no surprise), so I’ve been acting like it’s not a big deal; that I accept it will happen when the time is right. But I never fully realized the desire until I had to give up the baby rabbit today.

It brought me back to the moment I purchased Sachi almost three years ago. We’ve been desperately trying to conceive with no luck and when I met Sachi, I felt she was going to fill the whole in my heart of wanting my own child. She did for the first two months, and then I got pregnant with Liam. Who knew? But now that I have a child of my own, I realize that no rabbit can really fill that deep desire I yearn for. This explains why I wasn’t as happy as I thought I would be with the purchase of this adorable baby rabbit. Buying both rabbits gave ME the power to have “babies”. In both situations, I needed to have that control, even though the universe is telling me “no babies for you”.

I brought the baby bunny into the pet store once it opened. I stuck around for a little while to make sure her peeps didn’t hate her for leaving. I got a good sign from a fellow brother rabbit when he hopped over to groom her while she gobbled down the food they provided. It warmed my heart. Once I left the store, I knew I did the right thing for her. But now, I feel like I’m walking around with a big fat dark cloud that is pouring cold bitter rain over my head because I’m having to face the raw emotions of not being in control of my childbearing destiny and I may never be …which is more than what I bargained for today.

Monday, July 21, 2008

And here is my 3rd

2nd Digi page

This was fun! Can't wait to do more like this one.

Fish Give Pedicures

Well this definitely has to go down in the history books. Read the article about the latest spa treatment craze in Washington, D.C. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/25783483?GT1=43001

Me personally, I enjoy pedicures but I couldn't stick my feet in a tank and let little fishes nibble at my feet. It would remind me too much of a bug infestation on my feet. Eeww!

Friday, July 18, 2008

My first Digi page

I'm so excited. I just finished my first digi scrapbook page. Here it is...

Birth Announcements!!

Thought I'd share the birth announcement I created for my niece. Do you like?

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Remi Newman demystifies 'the talk' in her Infant Sexuality Workshop

“Today, we interview the first Pregnant Man ever! Live....On Oprah,” were the shocking word spewing out of the announcer’s mouth. Intrigued by this scientific marvel and the beginnings of redefining family members’ roles, I decided to watch the show for a few minutes. Being lost in the mind- boggling possibilities of gender identification, my then 22-month old reminds me of his presence by blurting out “BABY!” in seeing the man's belly. With a nervous chuckle, I say to my son, “You're right sweetie. There's a baby in that belly,” while at the same time I'm thinking, “Oh Crap! My job as a parent just got harder.” Not only is the sex talk going to be a challenge for me because I don't have man parts, but now I have to explain how some “men” can have babies while others can't. Where do I begin?

Sensitive topics like this are a walk in the park for local infant/child sex educator and fellow SRMC mom Remi Newman. In overhearing a conversation in Yoga class about someone’s toddler self exploring body parts that were thought to have been discovered late into their adolescents, Newman thought she’d put her Masters degree in Sexuality Education from NYU to use with the brilliant idea to present a workshop where parents can actively learn about their infant/toddlers sexuality in a comfortable environment. “Having ‘the talk’ before they can talk” workshop was born.

In Newman’s published article through the Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality (http://www.ejhs.org/volume11/Newman.htm), she states the workshop “is a sexuality education parenting workshop designed to give parents knowledge about infant sexuality and increase their comfort with the topic, so they can be an active participant in their child's healthy sexual development from the very beginning. Workshop topics include biological gender and gender roles, responding to their infant's natural exploration of their bodies and communicating with them about their bodies. Through several interactive workshop activities, parents explore and share their personal values around sexuality and increase their knowledge of infant and child sexuality.”

I took this workshop in hopes to learn more about how to communicate with my toddler when he explores his body after diaper changes or what to say when he’s wearing the sparkling pink bracelet he got from daycare. In Newman’s workshop, she creates an interactive and comfortable environment to talk about uncomfortable topics. I walked away from the workshop with a wealth of communication tactics to not only have a healthy conversation with my son about self exploration, but help me get over some of the “hang ups” I had due to the lack of sexual education in my own childhood.

According to Newman and her research, “Human beings are sexual from the moment they’re born. Our sexuality is an integral part of our personality that requires healthy nurturing just like any other aspect of our being. Early parent education allows parents to understand what this means and to feel comfortable with the idea, so they can take advantage of all the years they have to nurture a healthy sexuality in their children. Research shows that parents who begin communicating with their children earlier have an easier time carrying that conversation over into adolescence, which is when most parents get concerned about issues of sexuality.”

When reflecting upon your own childhood ‘talk’ experience, it may have lacked any openness, but don’t be too quick to blame your parents for your inability to naturally communicate with your children about sexual education. “They did the best they could for the time they were in,” says Newman.

Fellow SRMC mom Andrea Faivre took the workshop in April and felt the information effective. “[The workshop] has helped me become more aware of the way I communicate with Sebastian and to use the correct terminology,” said Faivre.

Newman makes it clear that she is not telling workshop attendees how to raise their kids. “I give information to create a consciousness of what kind of sexual educator you want to be for your kids,” says Newman.

Faivre offers advice for future workshop goers who are thinking about leaving the wingman at home. “I would totally encourage both parents to go together. There was a father in our workshop and it was nice to hear his point of view, his thoughts about the topic, and his reactions.”

The internet, television, advertising, and peers are common ways our children can learn about sex, sexuality, and gender identification. If I am able to provide my son one resourceful, non-judgmental ear to his questions about his body and his feelings about his body, I feel I am taking an encouraging step in shaping a confident and positive human being who will lead a happy life. Ten years from now, if Liam asks me if he can get pregnant, I'll be able to sit him down and have ‘the talk’ with courage and ease.

Upcoming “Having ‘the talk’ before they can talk” workshops through California Parenting Institute:

August 2 (English), 10:12-30pm
August 16 (Spanish), 2:00-4:30pm

Cost: $25 per person; $30 per couple

Presenter: Remi Newman, M.A. in Sexuality Education from NYU

To register by phone: 707-585-6108
To register online: http://www.calparents.org/classes.shtml#sexualityeducationcpiaug2

Feel free to visit Remi Newman’s blog www.havingthetalk.blogspot.com for additional resources

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Someone's got balls

Did you see the recent cover of the New Yorker? Satire or not, this is still outrageous. Their whole point of publishing this offensive cover is to illustrate how awful the media's propaganda has been on the Obama campaign. What adds fuel to the fire is that 20-30% of Americans who didn't understand the true message of what the New Yorker was trying to potray, will actually believe this is what Obama stands for. It breaks my heart that we haven't come that far from racism and skepticism of other cultures/beliefs. Is America really ready for an African-American president? When the campaign began, I thought we were. But the reactions to this cover makes me believe we are far from it. It saddens me that the struggles we've made for race equailty will continue to be a struggle for my son and nieces' adult lives. I believe in Martin Luther King Jr.s "I have a dream" speech. I felt, for the most part, I lived it by growing up in Hawaii. But living in Hawaii and the North Bay has created an illusion for me that everyone can live in harmony. I had no idea racism still existed, but by golley it is alive and well.       

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Random Thoughts

I have a couple random thoughts for the day:

- Have you seen the ad in the Roxy theatres about the woman with too many arms doing too many things (eating, drinking, applying make-up, entertaining her kids, talking on the cell phone) while she's driving. The message to the audience is "Be Safe on the Road." I didn't know whether I should be offended because they used a woman as an example and not a man, or embaressed because I too have done many of those things while driving. How would you react?

- 'WTF: Weekend Travel Fairs now on sale' was the title of an email in my inbox. Its striking how anyone (whether appropriate or not) will use swearing texting phrases to get noticed.

- I'm stealing this one from a dear friend's blog: "Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along." -Rumi

Ciao for now...

I'm an idiot

Like a moron, I've deleted my last Insprink blog by accident. Thank goodness I didn't delete my Liko blog. I would've cried because I've been blogging there for the past year and a half.

So to start things off on this blog (part duex), I thought I'd write a mission statement. I'm making it my mission to create, design, write, and sometimes vent about my passions. I want this to be a live journal of my struggles and triumphs to get to where I want to be in life. Don't ask me where that direction is. I'm starting with one blog entry at a time.

Currently, I'm working on a couple articles for our local mother's club newsletter. When I'm done, I'll post one of them here. Let me know what you think. Until then, I wish you well.

Love, K