Monday, July 28, 2008

Dark Knight-I finally watched it!

I've been a huge Batman fan since Michael Keaton took on the role in the late '80s. I loved Val Kilmer as Batman. Clooney was ok. But Christian Bale takes the cake. He is absolutely dreamy. My husband and I loved 'Batman Begins' so much, we jokingly threw in Bruce Wayne as an option for our first born's name. We ended up choosing Liam (from Liam Neeson in the 'Batman Begins' movie). The second installment is by far one of the best movies I've ever seen. It's incredibly long, but definitely not boring. If I ever am lucky enough to get pregnant again, I think Bruce Wayne will go back into the running list of names ;)

Project Runway is Back!! Woohoo!

Fashionista pic taken for wunderbloc.com So I finally caught up with the first two Project Runway shows that aired and I TOTALLY LOVE KENLEY COLLINS! I think she is absolutely adorable and I hope her new line is very similar to what she wears because I really like her clothes. Go Kenley! Hope you make it to the top 3!

Saturday, July 26, 2008

Beach Fun!

I love this photo I took of Liam on our last trip to Oahu. He watched the surfers ride waves from his safe sand dune. I did the whole page and then felt like something was missing. Once I added the "retro" look to it, it felt complete. Enjoy!



credits: Christine Ousley of christinescraps ~ Summer Splash kit
and
Pton Designs ~ Tropical Oasis kit

Friday, July 25, 2008

Here's another one of my creations...

I had fun with this page because I forced myself to be creative. I know, that sounds weird but I think being creative can be the best remedy for a crummy mood. Hope you like it.

Thursday, July 24, 2008

Buying and Giving up a rabbit turned out to be more than I bargained for….

I had an impulse purchase yesterday and it was very bad. It wasn’t like the over priced red Dolce & Gabbanna sunglass splurge that I did while waiting in the airport because it matched my favorite pair of shoes… I bought another rabbit; a brown & caramel lop eared baby rabbit to be exact. Corey specifically said to me, as I walked out the door to the pet store to purchase items for Sachi (our current rabbit), “Kelly, DON’T buy another rabbit.” I don’t know if its because the hubby said ‘no’ or because she stole my heart when she licked my hand (an old trick my previous rabbit Keihi use to do to get what he wanted), but I had to have her.


Liam was beyond thrilled to buy this baby rabbit and bring her home. Once we got home, I found it strange that I wasn’t as excited with her as I thought I would be but I quickly brushed the thought aside because my two year old was running around the kitchen screaming “I’m HUNGRY! I wanna EAT Mommy!”



After feeding, bathing, and putting the little rugrat to bed, I came back downstairs to take care of the rabbits. Sachi was not happy with her new neighbor. I had no idea bonding rabbits were going to be a challenge. I’ve always considered my rabbit a friendly animal, so it totally threw me to see Sachi throw a tantrum in her cage similar to a 2 year old child. She kicked up her litter, thrashed her toys around in her cage, and stomped loudly. It was clear she was not smitten by the doe eyed baby rabbit.



Even though I purchased the brown & caramel rabbit, she didn’t really feel like she was mine. I didn’t even get a chance to name her. Upon a reasoning discussion with the hubby, I decided to take the rabbit back the next morning.



The next morning comes. I carefully pack the bunny in the cardboard box she came in and head to the pet store. The shop didn’t open for another 10 minutes. I decided to get my last cuddles in with this rabbit before I returned her. As I’m petting her in my lap, she forms into a ball with her fur puffed out. I start talking to her (yes, I talk to animals, don’t you?) and apologizing for her traumatic overnight experience and that she deserves a better home with the possibility of being purchased with one of her siblings. Then all of a sudden, a thought hits me like a three car impact. I impulsively purchased this rabbit to fill the gapping whole in my heart…my desire to have another child. I’ve been in major denial because we’re having a hard time conceiving again (no surprise), so I’ve been acting like it’s not a big deal; that I accept it will happen when the time is right. But I never fully realized the desire until I had to give up the baby rabbit today.



It brought me back to the moment I purchased Sachi almost three years ago. We’ve been desperately trying to conceive with no luck and when I met Sachi, I felt she was going to fill the whole in my heart of wanting my own child. She did for the first two months, and then I got pregnant with Liam. Who knew? But now that I have a child of my own, I realize that no rabbit can really fill that deep desire I yearn for. This explains why I wasn’t as happy as I thought I would be with the purchase of this adorable baby rabbit. Buying both rabbits gave ME the power to have “babies”. In both situations, I needed to have that control, even though the universe is telling me “no babies for you”.



I brought the baby bunny into the pet store once it opened. I stuck around for a little while to make sure her peeps didn’t hate her for leaving. I got a good sign from a fellow brother rabbit when he hopped over to groom her while she gobbled down the food they provided. It warmed my heart. Once I left the store, I knew I did the right thing for her. But now, I feel like I’m walking around with a big fat dark cloud that is pouring cold bitter rain over my head because I’m having to face the raw emotions of not being in control of my childbearing destiny and I may never be …which is more than what I bargained for today.



Monday, July 21, 2008

And here is my 3rd

2nd Digi page

This was fun! Can't wait to do more like this one.

Fish Give Pedicures

Well this definitely has to go down in the history books. Read the article about the latest spa treatment craze in Washington, D.C. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/25783483?GT1=43001

Me personally, I enjoy pedicures but I couldn't stick my feet in a tank and let little fishes nibble at my feet. It would remind me too much of a bug infestation on my feet. Eeww!

Friday, July 18, 2008

My first Digi page

I'm so excited. I just finished my first digi scrapbook page. Here it is...

Birth Announcements!!



Thought I'd share the birth announcement I created for my niece. Do you like?

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Remi Newman demystifies 'the talk' in her Infant Sexuality Workshop

“Today, we interview the first Pregnant Man ever! Live....On Oprah,” were the shocking word spewing out of the announcer’s mouth. Intrigued by this scientific marvel and the beginnings of redefining family members’ roles, I decided to watch the show for a few minutes. Being lost in the mind- boggling possibilities of gender identification, my then 22-month old reminds me of his presence by blurting out “BABY!” in seeing the man's belly. With a nervous chuckle, I say to my son, “You're right sweetie. There's a baby in that belly,” while at the same time I'm thinking, “Oh Crap! My job as a parent just got harder.” Not only is the sex talk going to be a challenge for me because I don't have man parts, but now I have to explain how some “men” can have babies while others can't. Where do I begin?

Sensitive topics like this are a walk in the park for local infant/child sex educator and fellow SRMC mom Remi Newman. In overhearing a conversation in Yoga class about someone’s toddler self exploring body parts that were thought to have been discovered late into their adolescents, Newman thought she’d put her Masters degree in Sexuality Education from NYU to use with the brilliant idea to present a workshop where parents can actively learn about their infant/toddlers sexuality in a comfortable environment. “Having ‘the talk’ before they can talk” workshop was born.

In Newman’s published article through the Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality (http://www.ejhs.org/volume11/Newman.htm), she states the workshop “is a sexuality education parenting workshop designed to give parents knowledge about infant sexuality and increase their comfort with the topic, so they can be an active participant in their child's healthy sexual development from the very beginning. Workshop topics include biological gender and gender roles, responding to their infant's natural exploration of their bodies and communicating with them about their bodies. Through several interactive workshop activities, parents explore and share their personal values around sexuality and increase their knowledge of infant and child sexuality.”

I took this workshop in hopes to learn more about how to communicate with my toddler when he explores his body after diaper changes or what to say when he’s wearing the sparkling pink bracelet he got from daycare. In Newman’s workshop, she creates an interactive and comfortable environment to talk about uncomfortable topics. I walked away from the workshop with a wealth of communication tactics to not only have a healthy conversation with my son about self exploration, but help me get over some of the “hang ups” I had due to the lack of sexual education in my own childhood.

According to Newman and her research, “Human beings are sexual from the moment they’re born. Our sexuality is an integral part of our personality that requires healthy nurturing just like any other aspect of our being. Early parent education allows parents to understand what this means and to feel comfortable with the idea, so they can take advantage of all the years they have to nurture a healthy sexuality in their children. Research shows that parents who begin communicating with their children earlier have an easier time carrying that conversation over into adolescence, which is when most parents get concerned about issues of sexuality.”

When reflecting upon your own childhood ‘talk’ experience, it may have lacked any openness, but don’t be too quick to blame your parents for your inability to naturally communicate with your children about sexual education. “They did the best they could for the time they were in,” says Newman.

Fellow SRMC mom Andrea Faivre took the workshop in April and felt the information effective. “[The workshop] has helped me become more aware of the way I communicate with Sebastian and to use the correct terminology,” said Faivre.

Newman makes it clear that she is not telling workshop attendees how to raise their kids. “I give information to create a consciousness of what kind of sexual educator you want to be for your kids,” says Newman.

Faivre offers advice for future workshop goers who are thinking about leaving the wingman at home. “I would totally encourage both parents to go together. There was a father in our workshop and it was nice to hear his point of view, his thoughts about the topic, and his reactions.”

The internet, television, advertising, and peers are common ways our children can learn about sex, sexuality, and gender identification. If I am able to provide my son one resourceful, non-judgmental ear to his questions about his body and his feelings about his body, I feel I am taking an encouraging step in shaping a confident and positive human being who will lead a happy life. Ten years from now, if Liam asks me if he can get pregnant, I'll be able to sit him down and have ‘the talk’ with courage and ease.

Upcoming “Having ‘the talk’ before they can talk” workshops through California Parenting Institute:

August 2 (English), 10:12-30pm
August 16 (Spanish), 2:00-4:30pm

Cost: $25 per person; $30 per couple

Presenter: Remi Newman, M.A. in Sexuality Education from NYU

To register by phone: 707-585-6108
To register online: http://www.calparents.org/classes.shtml#sexualityeducationcpiaug2

Feel free to visit Remi Newman’s blog www.havingthetalk.blogspot.com for additional resources

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Someone's got balls

Did you see the recent cover of the New Yorker? Satire or not, this is still outrageous. Their whole point of publishing this offensive cover is to illustrate how awful the media's propaganda has been on the Obama campaign. What adds fuel to the fire is that 20-30% of Americans who didn't understand the true message of what the New Yorker was trying to potray, will actually believe this is what Obama stands for. It breaks my heart that we haven't come that far from racism and skepticism of other cultures/beliefs. Is America really ready for an African-American president? When the campaign began, I thought we were. But the reactions to this cover makes me believe we are far from it. It saddens me that the struggles we've made for race equailty will continue to be a struggle for my son and nieces' adult lives. I believe in Martin Luther King Jr.s "I have a dream" speech. I felt, for the most part, I lived it by growing up in Hawaii. But living in Hawaii and the North Bay has created an illusion for me that everyone can live in harmony. I had no idea racism still existed, but by golley it is alive and well.       

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Random Thoughts

I have a couple random thoughts for the day:

- Have you seen the ad in the Roxy theatres about the woman with too many arms doing too many things (eating, drinking, applying make-up, entertaining her kids, talking on the cell phone) while she's driving. The message to the audience is "Be Safe on the Road." I didn't know whether I should be offended because they used a woman as an example and not a man, or embaressed because I too have done many of those things while driving. How would you react?

- 'WTF: Weekend Travel Fairs now on sale' was the title of an email in my inbox. Its striking how anyone (whether appropriate or not) will use swearing texting phrases to get noticed.

- I'm stealing this one from a dear friend's blog: "Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along." -Rumi

Ciao for now...

I'm an idiot

Like a moron, I've deleted my last Insprink blog by accident. Thank goodness I didn't delete my Liko blog. I would've cried because I've been blogging there for the past year and a half.

So to start things off on this blog (part duex), I thought I'd write a mission statement. I'm making it my mission to create, design, write, and sometimes vent about my passions. I want this to be a live journal of my struggles and triumphs to get to where I want to be in life. Don't ask me where that direction is. I'm starting with one blog entry at a time.

Currently, I'm working on a couple articles for our local mother's club newsletter. When I'm done, I'll post one of them here. Let me know what you think. Until then, I wish you well.

Love, K